1. You have an interesting life and it is magnificent, even during the toughest times.  Keep this in mind, and live it accordingly.  You are in control.  Change your thoughts.  As long as you think that the cause of your problem is “out there” somewhere else – as long as you think that someone or something else is responsible for your suffering – your situation is hopeless.  It means that you are forever in the victim role, that you’re suffering even in paradise.  Don’t do this to yourself.  Be your hero, not your victim.